Despite all the rain taking place for the past two days, I made it to church yesterday when I wasn’t planning to go at all to begin with. I was very proud of myself and even happier once I realized what the day’s message was concerning. Pastor told the story of brothers Cain and Abel and how Cain’s wickedness allowed him to kill his own brother out of jealousy. I’m not going into details about the story because I’m no preacher, but I did want to touch on how jealousy can start seething into your consciousness and #UOENO.
Happy Monday you guys!! I had a wonderful weekend considering that I was off the entire time. Before working at the YMCA, I hadn’t had a weekend job since high school. Therefore any weekend that I don’t have to work now is always a guaranteed good one lol. I got some things taken care of that I needed to do and also had my share of fun. I’m also in the process of moving into a house, so I did some Spring cleaning yesterday to get rid of everything I don’t want/need. Now I can finally focus on actually packing everything else, which I’m very excited about!
Have you ever been in the position where you have way too much to do and don’t know when you can get it all done? That’s my current situation and it’s no one’s fault but my own… I have yet to learn how to say no! I have so much going on right now that I have to write everything down in several spots so I won’t forget to complete the task. You would think by me working about 40 hours a week between two jobs, taking four classes in college, being a full time mom and running my blog that I have enough going on. However as soon as someone asks me for a favor or a hand with something they’re doing, I’m quick to say yes. This is a problem.
How cute is this Easter bunny?! I found it on the producer Maestro’s Instagram and just had to use it for today’s post lol. Happy Positive Monday to everyone! It’s Easter Monday at that and guess what? I’m stuck at work until 6 womp womp. Not to mention it’s going to be over 70 degrees here today so you already know I’m weeping on the inside lol. I’m kidding, I’m actually trying this thing I saw online this morning where you can’t complain not even one time for 24 hours… let’s just say that I’m already down for like three offenses since I’ve been up this morning lol whoops!
div class=”separator” style=”clear: both; text-align: center;”a href=”http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-t67kY_c10CU/TylCp57KqPI/AAAAAAAAB_o/JZVLq4AKdVA/s1600/ashleyduncan.png” imageanchor=”1″ style=”margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;”img border=”0″ sda=”true” src=”http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-t67kY_c10CU/TylCp57KqPI/AAAAAAAAB_o/JZVLq4AKdVA/s1600/ashleyduncan.png” //a/divdiv style=”text-align: center;”/divdiv style=”text-align: center;”Anytime I think of someone young dying, I immediately think of Kelly Rowland’s song “Stole” from 2002. Ashley Duncan was only 17 when she decided to end her own life. But this isn’t just an ordinary suicide, she had been thinking about taking her life away for some time. Ashley Duncan was a well known student at Bellaire High School in Houston, TX. She had been posting to twitter and tumblr about how she wanted to end her life before she actually did. /divdiv style=”text-align: center;”br //divdiv style=”text-align: center;”According to a href=”http://www.khou.com/home/Teen-takes-life-after-making-online-references-to-suicide-138437514.html”a local news station from the area/a,nbsp;Ashley had posted the following to her tumblr page:/divdiv style=”text-align: justify;”em”Life ain’t worth the pain. if you know or have known what it feels like to want to die every minute second hour day week month year then you feel me…. I might not struggle financially but I struggle emotionally and mentally and I think that’s the worst struggle,” Duncannbsp;wrote on Tumblr Sunday. “So in asking why can’t it be my choice to die now? … I’m miserable. One day I won’t be here anymore and that’ll be the happiest day of my life… I’m tired and I’m done with this life.”/em/divdiv style=”text-align: justify;”br //divdiv style=”text-align: center;”She had also posted to twitter that same day that she felt like God was punishing her for keeping her alive. All of this took place this past Sunday, then on Monday she ended her life after finding a gun. She even tweeted that she had found the gun. Later she had posted on Tumblr that she was ready to end her life and left her followers with one word… “Peace”. /divdiv style=”text-align: center;”br //divdiv style=”text-align: center;”What makes this so different from other situations like this is that she played everything out over various social networks and none of her followers took her seriously. Different students at her school were saying they thought she was joking because she was known for joking and playing around. She had previously left Bellaire High School in October 2011 and was attending Pershing High School in hopes of graduating early, so no one really knows what was bothering her to push her so far./divdiv style=”text-align: center;”br //divdiv style=”text-align: center;”The sad thing about this situation is the fact that she put it out there that she was going to do this and no one heard her cry for help. To know that she posted all the things on Tumblr and twitter, and NO ONE took her seriously says so much. I don’t know if these issues that were bothering her were the cause for her switching schools or what, who knows what was going on in her life… but the fact that she posted about all of this on social networks should have opened some eyes. I don’t think my friends would have took me as a joke if I had said all of these things, or at least I know someone would have checked to make sure I was good rather than laughing about it with me./divdiv style=”text-align: center;”br //divdiv style=”text-align: center;”It’s a really sad situation that her life ended so soon and so publicly, andnbsp;I wonder how the people that know her and read her posts feel. That just goes to show you that you never know what anyone is going through, but if someone you know threatens to take their own life then you should definitely take them seriously because you never know their pain. It’s bad enough that this teenager struggled with the thoughts of suicide, but for her to publicize her thoughts and no one hear her cry is just crazy to me. Everyone should say a prayer for her soul, her family and her friends and let’s hope that this sends a message to the world that life is to be taken seriously./divdiv style=”text-align: center;”br //divdiv style=”text-align: center;”Below are a screenshot of her tweets before she took her life and I’ve also posted the video of Kelly’s single “Stole”. Feel free to leave your thoughts or any comments you have about this situation below./divdiv style=”text-align: center;”br /strongspan style=”font-size: large;”♥ Rest In Peace Ashley Duncan ♥ /span/strongbr //divdiv style=”text-align: center;”XOXO,/divdiv style=”text-align: center;”LaBellaBoss ♥/divdiv style=”text-align: center;”br //divdiv style=”text-align: center;”a name=’more’/a/divbr /table align=”center” cellpadding=”0″ cellspacing=”0″ class=”tr-caption-container” style=”margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;”tbodytrtd style=”text-align: center;”a href=”http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-3xatHbQqhPw/TylQDSoR_4I/AAAAAAAAB_w/84joenx1Wjw/s1600/ashleyduncantweets.PNG” imageanchor=”1″ style=”margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;”img border=”0″ height=”640″ sda=”true” src=”http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-3xatHbQqhPw/TylQDSoR_4I/AAAAAAAAB_w/84joenx1Wjw/s640/ashleyduncantweets.PNG” width=”426″ //a/td/trtrtd class=”tr-caption” style=”text-align: center;”Ashley’s tweets from Monday/td/tr/tbody/tablediv align=”center”/divdiv align=”center”br //divdiv align=”center”iframe allowfullscreen=”" frameborder=”0″ height=”315″ src=”http://www.youtube.com/embed/5o01uU7OdnQ” width=”560″/iframebr //div
div style=”text-align: left;”div class=”separator” style=”clear: both; text-align: center;”a href=”http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-wR3eBTvnxn4/TgnM-J9gRpI/AAAAAAAAAnE/YrewYQ1RImE/s1600/meangirls.jpg” imageanchor=”1″ style=”margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;”img border=”0″ height=”320″ i$=”true” src=”http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-wR3eBTvnxn4/TgnM-J9gRpI/AAAAAAAAAnE/YrewYQ1RImE/s320/meangirls.jpg” width=”312″ //a/divbr /How often do we see certain women hanging with a specific crew and you wonder when they became friends? Or you see someone with a different clique in each of their facebook albums?? lol but I’m serious! One of the things that irritates me more than anything else, is when someone claims to be friends with every Ashley, Brittany, and Jennifer (the most general names I could think of lol). I can never understand how anyone can put trust in more than one group of friends, and I never will. If you ask me it’s in the way and it’s a certified way to keep drama in your life. /divdiv style=”text-align: left;”br //divdiv style=”text-align: left;”Think about it like this, if you’re constantly running with different crews, who will trust you? I’m thinking no one in their right mind would. For all we know you could be going back and forth between different friends, telling different things and putting everyone out there. It’s easy to repeat what you hear to someone that you hang with and think you can trust. So it’s easy to slip and tell Nicki from your weekend crew that Keisha from your main crew is cheating on her boyfriend with someone else. Then when Nicki tells the other people in her crew (people that you might not necessarily trust) and it gets out that Nicki told it, then guess who Keisha’s gonna be mad at? Yep it would be you because she’ll KNOW you put her business out there because you’re the only person she talks to that hangs with Nicki. Hotmess.com/divdiv style=”text-align: left;”br //divdiv style=”text-align: left;”On top of that you could also be putting yourself out there by hanging with different people all the time. I know how quick we all are to say that someone isn’t our friend but just an associate, but really how thin is the line between associates and friends? If you try to make a point that someone is ONLY an associate, then stop carrying them like a friend. Far too often do I see women validating their reasons for hanging with a certain person by saying “they’re only an associate”. Yet at the same time, they tell this person their own business and they hang with this person regularly. No my dear, that is not an associate that is a friend. If you don’t want to give someone the friend title in your life, then don’t carry them as a friend! Point. Blank./divdiv style=”text-align: left;”br //divdiv style=”text-align: left;”I had to learn the hard way that you honestly cannot trust everyone. As much as you like to believe that everyone is a friend and they have your best interest at heart, they don’t. Plain and simple. Women can be very vindictive and if you don’t associate yourself with REAL people who mean you well, then you will get screwed over time and time again in life. Believe it or not, people do have ulterior motives at times so be careful who you choose to spend your time and energy with. You never know which one of your “associates” could be trying to get your man, take your job, or bring you down just because. This leads me to ask are associates even necessary in life?? Let us know what you think!/div
div class=”separator” style=”clear: both; text-align: center;”a href=”http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-1KTpq_Q10Bc/TdJpaY6ulXI/AAAAAAAAAXM/L2p4gCBuEgE/s1600/drita.karen.bmp” imageanchor=”1″ style=”margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;”img border=”0″ height=”298″ j8=”true” src=”http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-1KTpq_Q10Bc/TdJpaY6ulXI/AAAAAAAAAXM/L2p4gCBuEgE/s400/drita.karen.bmp” width=”400″ //a/divdiv align=”center”/divdiv align=”left”br //divdiv align=”left”Happy Tuesday!! I’m not sure how many people watch Mob Wives, but I LOVE this show!Forget Love amp; Hip Hop, Toya Carter, Basketball Wives… This show right here *Katt Williams voice* is RATCHET lol. If you’re not up on it yet, Mob Wives is a VH1 reality show just like Basketball Wives except this one centers around the lives of the women “married to the mob”. They are either daughters or wives of notorious mobsters, who mostly are all incarcerated. (SN: It comes on Sunday nights I THINK at 8 or 9 if you want to catch it.)/divdiv align=”left”br //divdiv align=”left”Anyway, I was tuned in on Sunday night and the issue at hand was that one of the girls named Drita ended up marrying another girl Karen’s ex after Karen had been dating him for seven years. Now Karen and her ex Lee first started dating in high school. They were supposedly going to get married and everything, but somehow Drita ended up messing with him and she was the one who ended up marrying Lee. Back in the day (mind you it was like 15 years since Karen dated Lee) Karen and Drita were really close friends. So in MY opinion, Drita was definitely wrong for dating Lee. /divdiv align=”left”br //divdiv align=”left”However, Karen had moved away and just recently moved back and she and Drita never got a chance to address the whole issue. Now that she is back in the area, Karen wanted tonbsp;take it up with Drita to let her know she was wrong and try to get an apology. Welp if you know Drita, you know Drita is not having that lol. She wouldn’t apologize to Karen at all because she didn’t feel the need to. She felt like she came in the picture long after Karen and Lee broke up so it wasn’t like their breakup was her fault. Really though Drita??/divdiv align=”left”br //divdiv align=”left”I don’t know how other cliques operate when it comes to friends dating exes but this is the golden rule between me and my friends. There’s way too many fish in the sea for you to have to date one of your best friend’s exes. Some people say that it’s easy to fall for someone your friends used to date because you all are around each other a lot so you already know that person. I also realized that this is a bigger issue between females, whereas males don’t really care about their boys getting with their ex unless it was “wifey”. Even with that said, I know plenty of guys who have knocked down their homeboys old “wifey” regardless of how serious their past relationship was. /divdiv align=”left”br //divdiv align=”left”This leads me to ask the simple yet controversial question… Would you ever date or sleep with one of your best friends exes?? Like I said to me this is a definite way to ruin your friendship, but many people don’t think it’s that serious. Let us know what you think! Will you be tuned in to Mob Wives in the future?? And may I add that Lee is currently incarcerated so really who’s #winning Drita ^_^/divdiv align=”left”br //divdiv align=”left”XOXO,/divdiv align=”left”LaBellaBoss lt;3/divdiv align=”left”/div